So the ‘big day’ you have been anticipating is officially over. You had been planning this one day for so long, you forgot to think about what was going to happen once it was over. What is being married really mean? How do you keep the love growing?
Luckily, we have some helpful advice for married life.
Don’t forget to be an “I.” Of course marriage is a partnership; however, you can’t forget that you are an individual too. Take some time for yourself. Go enjoy activities that you like on your own. Have some alone time or go out with a group of your friends. Remember to have your own opinions. Just because you are married does not mean you have to agree on everything. You were an individual before; don’t forget to be one now.
Communicate! Talk to each other about everything. Don’t let something small build up just because you are newly married. Talk about what each of you expect and want. Talk about your day with one another. Vent to your partner. Tell them about that lady who cut in front of you in line and got the last muffin. But remember, while talking is important, listening is just as important. When your partner has concerns make sure you listen to them and work together to come up with a good solution. Not every conversation is going to be pleasant, but love and marriage requires work and communication
Keep the romance alive. It’s very easy to just get into a pattern and take one another for granted, so plan and actually schedule date nights to spice things up every once in a while. Come up with new activities or try new things you haven’t done before. You don’t have to spend a lot of money, just spend quality time together. Plan to eat a meal together every day, even if it’s just a quick snack. Remember to still flirt with each other. Maintain some mystery in your marriage by keeping the bathroom door closed. And put the phone down, spend quality time together without your phones or other electronic devices to distract you.
Create a home together. After you are married take some time to decorate your home together as a couple. Even if you lived together before getting married, buy or make new decoration as a couple. Make your home express this new chapter of your lives together. Make room for all the wedding gifts in your home. Put up a bunch of pictures of the two of you everywhere! Create your dream home together.
Enjoy each other. Remember that just because you are now married, not much has to change. Be the same people you were before you got married. Clearly it worked then so it will work again. Enjoy the experiences you have together the same way you did before. Choose to love each other every single day. Remind each other how much you care with little things like, holding hands in public, good morning kisses, surprise lunches, sweet notes, or random compliments. Cherish one another.
Happily ever after isn’t the end of the story… It’s the beginning of the new and beautiful life you will create together. Marriage is work, but you have your partner to help you.
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